Posted on May 18, 2025

For years now, the word masculinity has been dragged into the dock and tried in the court of public opinion. Accused of being outdated, oppressive—even dangerous. The sentence? Silence it. Soften it. Strip it down and rebrand it.

But masculinity is not the enemy.
The real enemy is how society has failed to guide boys into becoming men.

Across homes, classrooms, and media, we have abandoned boys to figure it out for themselves. We have ridiculed fathers, removed role models, and replaced mentorship with mockery. And too many men—fathers included—have failed to step up, either absent entirely or present in body but not in spirit.

We say boys will be boys, then blame them when no one showed them how to become men.

Undisciplined boys become lost men.
And lost men far too often become statistics—in prison, in violence, or in graves far too early.

Yet instead of addressing these failures, we attack masculinity itself. If masculinity were a race or religion, such treatment would be called prejudice. But when it's manhood, it's fashionable to mock it, dismiss it, and dismantle it—quietly and openly alike.

But let me say this plainly:

Masculinity is not toxic. It is essential.
The problem isn’t masculinity—it’s the lack of guided, grounded, honourable masculinity.

At The Modern Gentleman, we don’t just defend manliness—we steward it. We call men to be protectors, providers, mentors, and models. We challenge fathers to teach, not just turn up. We ask men to raise the bar for themselves—and raise their sons with it.

Masculinity isn’t a costume. It’s not a punchline. It is a responsibility.

Let us not apologise for being men. Let us instead commit to being better men.
Because when masculinity is well-lived, it does not dominate—it dignifies.

And the world needs more of that. Not less.

– Dusty Wentworth